LESS OF ME. MORE OF HER.

It’s very common that you go out with your girlfriend and just can’t get over her pretty face. You keep staring at her like a puppy, and whenever she says something, you simply nod your head without saying anything. At that point, it feels like you’re done expressing yourself through words, and the only way to say yes or no is by nodding or making gestures. This is what it’s like to forget yourself and live for someone you love. You just can’t get over your emotions, and everything starts to blur out.

Have you ever considered expressing how much she means to you? Girls always like it when you open up and say such things. They tend to be more sensitive when it comes to feeling emotions. They may not tell you everything they feel, but they will always drop hints about what they’re going through at that moment. Now don’t ask me what those hints are or how they do it—it’s your job to figure that out. Simply observing her won’t give you all the answers. Instead, listen to her, understand her words, and you’ll begin to notice the hints she gives. It’s not that complicated. She is simple to understand—you’re the one making it complicated.

In any relationship, when one person thinks about the other first and themselves later, that relationship is unlikely to fail. And if it’s mutual—if the person you love also puts you first—then nothing in this world can break you apart. Except, maybe, Indian parents… 😆😝 They seem to have a special power to interfere, with concerns about caste and “what society will say.” But that’s a different topic, one I might explore in another blog. For now, let’s focus on how to love someone deeply in real life, not just in theory. Keep reading.

If I had a second chance, I would tell her that all these years, I missed her, and I’m grateful to be with her now. The whole world changes when she smiles. Imagine you’re having a bad day, and then you see her smile at you—what could possibly still go wrong? You can’t help but smile back and think about how beautiful she is. Didn’t your world just change? Your life depends on the choices you make, which shape your future. So if your choices are good, the outcomes will be good too.

In the end, you should express yourself to your girlfriend with words, but not empty promises. You can promise specific things, but if you’re unable to keep them or lack confidence, why reduce the value of the word “promise”? To truly be together, just be there for her—hold her hand when she needs you. There’s no place in her heart for someone who only seeks happiness and ignores her pain. She may understand things about you that even you’re unaware of, and though they might hurt her, she accepts them quietly. On the other hand, constantly complaining won’t get you anywhere. What will move you forward is accepting situations and working toward solutions, instead of blaming circumstances and walking away.

So now it’s your turn to think—where are you, and where do you want to be with her? There are endless places to explore together and a future waiting to be built. Will you stay where you are, or will you create your own story? Choices are everywhere. She is important, and so are you. But sometimes, putting the person you love before yourself is what makes a relationship truly special.

For those who think I’m being biased here, just replace “him” with “her,” and you’ll see the balance. Still, I lean slightly toward the feminine perspective because I believe their emotional depth is stronger—and that’s why the title: “LESS OF ME, MORE OF HER.”

Thanks for reading.